Thursday, 18 June 2009

Why I think husbands cheat

Why do men cheat, This is the $64000 question, that us a women really dont know the answer to. I have experience a cheating husband a number of times, and each time I have known he's cheating, how I don't know, maybe I have a 6th sense or a nose for these things.


The first time he did I, I had no clue, but something took me home lunchtime on that fateful day in September 1975, when I found him in the kitchen making tea for the pair of them. We had only been married for 6 months. Little did I know this was a clue of things to come.


I think they cheat for several reasons.

ONE. They think the grass is greener on the other side.

TWO. The person they are cheating with has laid it on a plate for them, and they've take advantage.

THREE. The person they are cheating with has listened to the man's tails of his marriage, (they usually exagerate), about how the little woman doesn't understand him, or he doesn't get enough sex, or how she naggs him and he's fed up with it, etc ect you know, the usual crap.


The cheatess, is usually taken in by all this crap and bull, and feels sorry for him, or she already fancies him and this gives her a good excuse to start the affair. She tells him things he wants to hear, like, I'll never nag you and I love to have sex, or she starts to belittle the wife, (even though she know's nothing about her or the state of the marriage) and this give the man a big ego boost, hence why he starts to have the affair with the person in question.


Now you may think I am bitter and twisted regarding this subject. and you would be right, having been cheated on 5 times, and every time he has cheated, it's been with a "friend", friends don't do things like that, I hear you cry, you would think not wouldn't you. So be careful girls, your friends may not be what they seem.


He's behaving himself now, because he know's which site his bread is buttered, and he says he loves me, although sometime I wonder. You may be saying "Why did you stay with him", well I'm of the old school when we never got divorced, and tried to make it work and after a lot of pains, tears, shouting, hitting, yes that was me hitting him, I even attacked him with a knife at one point, thats how angry I got with him, we are now on an even keel and very happy with our life together, but I am never complacent, if I get even a sniff of him acting differently or doing things he doesn't usually do, I question question question, he knows why, and things usually settle. I even turn up at his place of work unexpectedly, to say hello or to give him something, he knows IF it happens agin he will go out of our house feet first in a wooden box, because I will do some serious damage.


Wednesday, 17 June 2009

Why did my husband cheat on me.

September 1975, we were living in Preston at the time and had only been married for 6 months. He was getting friendly with the baby sitter across the road, and although I was getting suspicious , I didn't worry because, as I said we had only been married 6 months, and as I thought, we were very much in love.


One day on a whim, I came home from work one lunch time, (I only work round the corner), and as I walked in the door I found him in the kitchen, when he should have been at work. Me being me thought, he's up to something, so I shot upstairs, and sure enough guess who I found. Yes your right, the baby sitter, and used condom on the floor, her face turned to ashed grey as I looked at her. After telling her she was a slut and all the other names under the sun, I turned on my heels, shot down the stairs, and told him to get out. I went back to work.


All afternoon I was stewing over what I had seen and why had he done this to me. I didnt reach a conclusion. 5pm came around and I walked home, hoping he had packed his bags and gone. I unlocked the front door, only to find a note on the living room table saying, "I'm sorry If you want me back meet me in the park", cliche I know, but he is a man, and has no imagination. I was just about to walk up to the park when guess who was walking down the road. Because I hadn't met him, he thought I didn't want him back. I explained that I had gone back to work and had only just got in.


We spent the evening talking, shouting, crying and hugging, but eventually we come to an agreement that IF I gave him one more chance he would be a model husband, This was to haunt me later on in our marriage. So there you have it the FIRST time he cheated, I never found out why, and still to this day I don't know why.

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